Becoming a Passport Bro (Part 4): Real G’s Moving Silent Like Lasagna

Before I begin, I want to formally declare my beef with lasagna by saying, “Fuck lasagna.” For real, who orders lasagna at a restaurant? This is the food you only eat when you’re at someone’s house, and their mom happened to make it because the recipe has been in the family since Lincoln issued the Emancipation Proclamation. Excuse my ADHD; let’s get back on subject. In case it went over your head, the "g" in lasagna is silent. At least in American English it is. I’m not sure what the “innit” and “cup of tea” folks are doing with lasagna in the land of sausage and beans for breakfast.

Sidenote: How do you conquer half the world and still eat bland food?

Anyways, for the passport bros or aspiring passport bros out there - here’s the lesson: the assumption from foreign girls is that you have money. If you do, don’t flaunt it. If you don’t, don’t waste your time and energy pretending. I’ve been to nearly 50 countries, which gives me unique insights into various dating cultures across the globe. Granted, I did not date women in all of these countries nor do I have the desire to do so for the sake of capturing the flag. However, there are strong similarities between regions that give me the confidence to speak on this. As an example, dating Norwegians will give you good insights into the dating culture of Iceland, Sweden, Denmark, and Finland. The same is true for South East Asia, Eastern Europe, Central/South America, etc.

Based on my anecdotal experience and that of my network, leading with your money does not have a significant increase in ROI over the alternative, which is just being chill. I saw a video recently on Twitter (originated from TikTok) of a girl in New York who gets a DM from a guy who wants to take her out. The guy sends a private limo to get her, then the first stop is Hermes (luxury brand) where she selects a pair of expensive shoes (on his dime), she then meets him at a high-end restaurant where they have a sort of Michelin dining experience with top-of-the-shelf wine. The girl was perhaps a U.S. 7 (my metric may be off because I haven’t been back in a while), a European 6 at best, and she wouldn’t be noticed on the public bus in Russia. The thing is, you can get attractive women going all out and doing these over the top simp behaviors. On the other hand, you can also get women of similar objective beauty by just grabbing a cup of coffee. I recommend you move like a g, because:

“Real G’s moving silent like lasagna.” - Lil Wayne

For example, in Europe, women love to walk. Some of the most beautiful women I have been with started with a first date where we simply went for a walk. 

In Asia, I would invite women to visit a waterfall with me as a first date. I would pick them up on my motorbike, and we would ride there and back together. And honestly, some will find that more attractive than coffee or dinner. It shows that you’re an active person, which many find attractive. Don’t get me wrong, no matter where you go you will find these women who are looking for men who lead with money. They can call it what they want but at the end of the day, that’s just being an escort in my eyes. I matched with a girl a few months ago and I asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. She told me that coffee is not a proper date. I sort of let the conversation die. Later, I was at a coffee shop that she recommended and sent me a picture from earlier in our conversation. I texted her that it was a great recommendation. She then recommended I grab an almond croissant next time that I’m there. She told me that she was in Paris and that she was coming back in a few days, sort of hinting for me to ask her out again. I replied with “let’s grab the almond croissant when you’re back.” 

She then tells me word for word, “That’s sweet. But I hope you understand that coming back from a fully paid trip to Paris as a first date, a cafe date feels very low effort. I’m very selective how I spend my time and this just doesn’t seem worth my time.” 

When I read that, I was genuinely happy for her. Dating abroad has given me the opportunity to not get butt hurt over messages like this. I literally have not thought of her for months until now as it was fitting for this post. I looked through my messages for my reply, which was “I love that for you! Thank you for saving us time 🥰.” And I genuinely meant it.

I have and still do dinner dates. For me, it’s usually on the second date or if there’s a strong enough connection with the person for it to be the first. Your actions and behavior when you first meet someone set the tone for the expectations they have of you. Absolutely be a gentleman, take a girl out and pay for the coffee, dinner, drinks, etc. However, start from a reasonable place to build up from. Don’t fly girls out you never met, buy expensive gifts, put them in luxury hotels on the first night, take them to a Michelin star restaurant, etc. Doing so means that you have to sustain that as the expectation, and everything you do that’s a step down from that indicates that you are losing interest - which will lead them to lose interest. And to be honest, all of the amazing women that I’ve met that I’d consider relationship material for me (subjectively) would not accept flights and expensive gifts from someone they barely know. Y’all may have a different definition, but that’s just an escort in my eyes. I find it to be a much more rewarding feeling to go out with someone knowing that they are there because they genuinely want to meet you, not because they are expecting something fancy or expensive out of you. Once I’ve met someone a few times (and clapped the cheeks of course), I have no problem flying them out, going to nice dinners, going on trips, etc. As the saying goes “different strokes for different folks.”