Becoming a Passport Bro (Part 3): Mental Diet

There is a strong focus on the physical and external aspects of being a bro. Admittedly, if your goal is to clap cheeks, that's 80% of the battle to get in the door. The other 20% is not being kicked out before you've had a chance to take off your shoes.

Side note for Americans: In most countries around the world, it's customary to take your shoes off at the door.

In Kanye West's song "I Love It," he says, "When the first time they ask you if you want sparkling or still? Are you trying to act like you were drinking sparkling water 'before you came out here?"

Act like you belong. DO NOT start talking to women with incel speak. Complaining to women about women is not only counterproductive, it's illogical. The mental gymnastics you need to do to be oblivious to that cognitive dissonance is actually quite impressive. If you find yourself winning any arguments (or believing you are) on this topic, or any for that matter, you've already lost. You'll go home and get a text that reads something like:

"It was really nice getting to know you, and I had a lot of fun. Thanks for dinner! I just don't feel a connection and hope you have a great trip in [random city]."

A mental diet is the information and thoughts that you consume on a daily basis. It can have a significant impact on your mood, mindset, and overall well-being. That's why it's essential to be mindful of what you're feeding your mind. You really have to be conscious of what you expose yourself to because, as humans, we are quite adaptable. This is why families and even regions tend to have similar religious and political beliefs.

Tips for improving your mental diet

Challenge your beliefs:

Jay-Z has a line in the song "Heaven" from the Magna Carta Holy Grail Album that reads:

"Conspiracy theorist screaming Illuminati, they can't believe this much skill is in the human body. He's 6'2", how the heck he fit in a new Bugatti? Aw, forget it, you got me. Question religion, question it all, question existence until those questions are solved."

Always question your beliefs and ask yourself questions such as:

• Why do I hold this belief?

• Is there any evidence to support this belief?

• Is there any evidence that contradicts this belief?

Consume positive media:

I know in today's world, media can be polarizing, but instead of scrolling through videos/posts about "10 reasons women hate men" or "10 things that are wrong with the world," perhaps it's better to consume things such as:

• "10 reasons you'll never regret traveling"

• Documentaries about life in whichever countries you want to travel to

Avoid negative self-talk:

You're the man. There's a quote that I really like; it's sort of like "fake it till you make it," but it reads "fake it till you become it." Act like the man as if you're competing against Leonardo DiCaprio for an Oscar. As I've been told many times, "confidence is sexy."

Set boundaries with toxic people: If there are people in your life who are constantly negative or who make you feel bad about yourself, it's important to set boundaries with them. This may mean limiting your contact with them or even cutting them out of your life altogether. BYE FELICIA!

Do things: Just get in the habit of doing things. Go bouldering, go bowling, go hiking. Do things. Put yourself in a positive place to have a story to tell.

Sleep and exercise: It's an oldie but a goodie. You hear it time and time again, so I'll just repeat it.

Conclusion:

Keep up the positive mindset and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.